16 Aug 2017

One summer night during a severe thunderstorm, a mother was tucking her small son into bed. She was about to turn the light off when he asked in a trembling voice, “Mommy, will you stay with me all night?”

Smiling, the mother gave him a warm, reassuring hug and said tenderly, “I can’t, dear. I have to sleep in Daddy’s room.”

A long silence followed. Then the little boy replied with a shaky voice, “The big sissy!”

I can feel that little boy’s pain. I remember very well lying in my bed at night, peeking out from under the covers at the closet where I was certain a boogeyman was hiding. He was just waiting until I went to sleep before he would come out and do terrible things, like mess up my room or play with my toys. I remember always having to sleep with some kind of cover on me, even if it was just the sheet. My thinking was that if I were attacked by someone in the middle of the night, like the guy in my closet after he finished with my toys, the sheet would protect me from harm. Of course, I would never, ever let my hand or foot hang over the edge of the bed as I was lying there. That would have been all the other boogeyman needed—the one who was hiding under my bed. He was lying down there every night just waiting for that hand or that foot to flash for just a split second. He would grab it if I gave him the opportunity, pull me off the bed, and then it would be on. I went over and over in my mind the moves I would put on him if he grabbed me, how I would use the suplex (an offensive move used in both professional and amateur wrestling) or something else I had learned on Mid-Atlantic Wrestling, and that guy would be toast. I was scared to death, but I was not helpless. Chief Wahoo McDaniels and Dusty Rhodes had taught me well.

As I grew older, my fears changed. Now it wasn’t the boogeyman that kept me awake at night. I hardly ever thought about him lying in wait under my bed. I knew that if he ever managed to slide out of there, he would be so covered in dust that I would have plenty of time to escape his clutches as he sneezed and wheezed and struggled to breathe. No, my fears as a teen were about tests and papers and sports and girls and fitting in at school. Fast forward twenty-five years, and see Cindy and me as young parents trying to homeschool seven children, all scrambling through the house, and my fears were that I would ruin them or there would be character flaws or educational gaps.

Hit fast forward again and see an older dad and granddad with one high school senior left at home. These days my fears are that I will not finish well, or one of my children will walk away from the Lord, or that I really have ruined my kids. Most often, though, I am reminded that the Lord has not given His children “a spirit of fear, but of power and love and self-control.” (1Tim. 1:7).

Dr. E. Stanley Jones said, “I am inwardly fashioned for faith, not for fear. Fear is not my native land; faith is. I am so made that worry and anxiety are sand in the machinery of life; faith is the oil. I live better by faith and confidence than by fear, doubt and anxiety. In anxiety and worry, my being is gasping for breath—these are not my native air. But in faith and confidence, I breathe freely—these are my native air.”

Amen! I am breathing more freely all the time.

Mark Fox and his wife, Cindy, homeschooled 7 children, graduating the last in 2018. Mark pastors Antioch Community Church in Elon and teaches public speaking at Elon University. Since he wrote a book for men (A Faithful Man) in 2012, he has traveled to seven countries to encourage men to lead as prophet, priest, protector and provider in their homes. Mark wrote a middle grade book this year called Growing Up Tommy, a story of a boy trying his best to make it safely through third grade. He hopes to find an agent for the book in 2021. Besides writing, Mark loves reading, running and any opportunity to go with his wife to the beach.