God’s Plan for My Homeschooling Journey

16 Apr 2014

We started this journey eighteen years ago. Through a series of circumstances, we found ourselves in a situation we never could have predicted. The system had failed us, and we had pulled our oldest son out of public school.

The ensuing years have been bumpy and blessed. Some of the bumps have been more like huge mountains, seemingly insurmountable. Some days have been too short and others too long. But the blessings have been more than anything I could have imagined.

I am officially ready to confess the following:

1. I am addicted. This journey has given me a front row seat to the work of God. I tell you, I have seen miracles. I have experienced miracles. I have come to know God, not just know about Him. Through this journey God has become real to me. He has become real to my children. I get to see Him every day—in little things and in big things. He is right here with us every day and all through the day. We know we need Him, and He glories in our need for Him.

2. I am grateful. I didn’t want to homeschool my kids. I made fun of homeschooling and homeschoolers. I was not gracious or kind. I didn’t understand, so I criticized. Now I am so thankful that God orchestrated circumstances that brought us to the decision to homeschool. His drawing us into home education was His drawing us further into relationship with Himself. Here on this path, which has been lonely and where we have often been misunderstood, He has always been close. He has directed, encouraged and strengthened us along the way.

3. I am not perfect. If I didn’t know this before today, I know it now. In many ways, I thought I had it going on before we started homeschooling. I really did. I had a plan, of which I was the center. Like most of us, I knew I was imperfect, but I worked diligently to avoid facing or dealing with that fact. Hiding and denying my inadequacies dominated my actions. Maintaining an illusion was the focus. Now I know that my imperfections are where God shows up the mightiest, and I am no longer fearful. My imperfections and weaknesses are now where He can display His strength.

4. I don’t have it all figured out. When we first started, I thought figuring it all out was the objective. I thought that I would plan out the ideal educational method (including curriculum) for all of the children and then just work the plan. I didn’t take into account that my children are individuals. I wanted a formula. There were many for sale. But they didn’t work. Now I know that homeschooling is a faith journey. It isn’t about figuring it all out. It is about trusting God and walking by faith.

5. I am confident. My confidence is not in a curriculum, an educational plan or myself. No, my confidence is squarely where God has intended it to be all along—in Him. I am confident in His good, pleasing, and perfect will. I am confident that I can trust Him to continue to be faithful. I am confident that He is in control and that He is sovereign. This confidence means that I can relax and rest in Him. I need not panic. He is faithful!

I’m a homeschooling mom just like you. Every day is a challenge. No matter how much I plan, things happen. Challenges and obstacles abound. And yet, this I know: “He is able to keep that which I’ve committed until that day.” I pray that day is fast approaching, but until then, I choose to worship and trust Him! He is Worthy!

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Karen West's picture

Thank you for your honesty because you are telling my story in yours. God Bless you for putting into words my sometimes low moments to my high moments. Your family is an inspiration to all of us who feel the days are both too short and too long and that we are only human and God just wants us to look to Him for guidance.

Rachael Carman's picture

I continue to be grateful that God gives us each other for support and encouragement! May He bless you and your family-

Meredith Bernard's picture

I just found this site looking into information about homeschooling in NC. Your words have encouraged me beyond measure! Thank you for sharing. I quit my job to stay home last fall and will homeschool my 6 year old son this coming fall…and I just feel lost as to what I’m doing. I have several friends that homeschool, but they are all in VA. I live on the border, but in NC. I’ve got family not understanding my decision, even after explaining it’s a personal decision based on faith. I will be digging into this site more but I just wanted to say “Thank You” for the encouragement I have received through this post. Blessings to you, Meredith

Rachael's picture

Hey Meredith-blessings upon you as you start this journey! It is a great adventure. I hope that we can meet at the NCHE conference. I will be speaking there. If there is any other way I can help you, please let me know. In the meantime I will pray for you and you family as you step out in faith.

Ophelia's picture

Hi - thank you so much for the inspirational words of God's love and faith in Him. I have been disappointed in the public school system for a while now. I have two daughters, one in middle school and one in high school. I became a single parent a few years ago and got laid off from my job 5 years ago. I own my own business which it makes it easy for me to home school. I just haven't taken that step yet. You mentioned that earlier it wasn't easy and maybe that's why I haven't made that step yet. I have made my decision to do so school year 2014-2015. Is it to late to pull them out of school now? School will be out for summer break in June. I hate the public school with a passion. It's sad to feel that way. My daughters were in gifted classes in elementary but now they are making D's. I just don't understand why. Is home schooling expensive? Thank you for sharing your story. I look forward in hearing your reply.

debbie_mason's picture

Ophelia, I wanted to make sure you saw Rachael's reply below.

Rachael Carman's picture

I apologize for the delay, but I've been traveling. Your circumstance sounds like a great opportunity to homeschool. There is no perfect time to pull them out. I believe every day is a good day to bring them home. If you do decide to bring them home for the rest of the year, just relax and read with them. You can spend the summer getting to know them and figuring out what approach and materials you want to use this next year. Homeschool can cost as little or as much as you determine. There are many ways to get curriculum inexpensively. If there is anything else I have help you with, let me know.