Homeschooling--The Road Less Traveled

1 Sep 2000

by Marysia Marts


When considering whether or not to place my child in a Christian school or to homeschool, I made it a matter of prayer—much prayer. You see, I didn't want to miss God on this one. The path my husband and I had always had in mind for our children's education was our church's Christian school. I decided to make sure that we were on the right path by asking the Lord to make it abundantly clear which one we were to do. I felt sure He would not say to homeschool. I didn't want to homeschool my children, nor did I think I would be good at it. Then He began to make it “abundantly clear.”

After a week or so of prayer, I asked my Bible study group to pray for God to show me what to do. The lesson that week was “Are you wavering between two opinions?” I'll say I was—homeschool or Christian school? What timing!

We learned that our usual lecture teacher was out sick. This was the first time in fifteen years she had missed. Her replacement came from a Bible study group like ours in High Point. During the teaching she reminded us of “The Road Not Taken,” by Robert Frost, one of my favorite poems. How well this poem fit in with the lesson because it dealt with a decision between the two roads the traveler had before him. As the Bible study teacher spoke about this poem, I could see homeschooling as the road less traveled in today's world. As I was thinking this, the teacher said, “Maybe you have two roads before you, perhaps they are whether to place your child in a Christian school or to homeschool.” Some of the ladies from my small group, whom I had just asked to pray about this, were sitting by me, and we all gasped. They looked at me saying, “That's just what you asked us to pray about.” As I sat there amazed at what she had just said, someone not in my group turned to me and said, “Are you going to homeschool?” All I could say was “I never thought I would, but now I'm not so sure.” I left Bible study that day pondering all I had heard, knowing that God was listening to my prayers, and that He can be very specific when He answers them.

Later that evening, my husband and I had an appointment with a woman who was selling cemetery plots. As we were listening to her, my four-year-old son needed correction. I spoke to him and turned back to face her. As I did, this nice woman, who had no idea what I was praying about, said, “Are you going to homeschool?” My mouth dropped open (for the second time that day) and I said, in astonishment, “Why in the world would you ask me that?” She replied, “Oh, I just think you'd be good at it.” Hadn't I used those same words, a little differently, as an excuse not to homeschool? I told her that my reason for not homeschooling was that I didn't think I'd be good at it, but that I was praying about it. It turned out she was a Christian, and to this day I'm sure she doesn't know how God chose to use her in making the decision to homeschool “abundantly clear” to me.

Believe it or not, God did not stop here. He gave me several more “encounters” with people that confirmed to me that I was to homeschool. By that time, I was so encouraged and overwhelmed by God answering my prayer and making everything so clear that I had a peace in my heart that this was the road for our family. My husband and I were in agreement. Homeschooling would be our choice (or should I say, God's choice) for our children. Four years later, I can say in the words of Robert Frost:

            “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-

             I took the one less traveled by,

             and that has made all the difference.”

Marysia Marts is married to Greg. They have two sons, Timothy, nine, and Thomas, five. They live in Greensboro. She is in her fifth year of homeschooling and is thankful for the “difference” it has made in her family.

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