The Gaze that Grace Gives

19 May 2003

by Renee Gray


It has been said that a child’s first impression of God is found in the face of his mother. She gazes on him lovingly, ready to meet his every need, willing to sacrifice whatever she must to care for him, nurture him, teach him about his world, protect him, help him to find purpose and meaning in life. She gives, and she gives, and gives some more. She loves unconditionally, opening her heart to be hurt, her love to be rejected, her care to be scorned. The love for her child is the greatest power in the world.

Consider the impact of this love if you inserted mother and her love in the place of love in verses 4-8 of I Corinthians 13: “Mother is patient, mother is kind. She does not envy, does not boast, is not proud. She is not rude, not self-seeking or easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs. Mother does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Mother always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. A mother’s love never fails…”

I’ve seen this love in action with many of you homeschool moms. Certainly sacrifice is evident in that many of you have given up careers, degrees, comforts, pleasures to stay home and teach your children. You work long, tiring, and trying days with little acknowledgement—but don’t seem to require it so much anyway. You don’t get an annual review and raise or promotion when you certainly deserve it. I saw some statistics once about salary packages for a homemaker mother of two and several years ago she would be worth $30,000. That’s not counting teaching! My only question was, “Where do I collect?”

When people ask my husband if I work, he always responds, “Yes, and her job is much harder than mine.” I like the story that Dr. Dobson tells occasionally on his radio program about the businessmen that took their homemaker wives to lunch one day. As the men discussed sales, insurance rates, and investments, one of them looked over at the women and declared, “Guys, all our work will one day be burnt up, but our wives are the ones who are making the eternal investments, and their work will not be burnt up!”

Andrew Jackson wrote of his mother: “There never was a woman like her. She was gentle as a dove and brave as a lioness… The memory of my mother and her teachings were after all, the only capital I had to start life with, and on that capital I have made my way.” We may never fully realize the impact we will have on our children and their children and on future generations.

One of the names of God is El Roi, the God who sees. He sees not only the things you do, He sees your heart and knows the love that you have for your children. His reward is sweeter than anything this world has to offer. So, Moms, “press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called you heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:14. Have a blessed Mother’s Day!


Renee Gray has been a Christian for thirty years and married to her best friend, Peter, for sixteen years. Morgan Richard, their firstborn is in heaven, and Trevor Ryan is eleven years old. They have been homeschooling and living in Salisbury for eight years. She has been the president of Rowan County Home School Association for two years.


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